I have other posts which explain what I am going through. I need advice and opinions on this topic.
After reading DB again, one of the small goals I wrote down for myself is that my W (we're separated) would invite me to a school reunion coming up in August. (The reason this has such meaning is that she is/was having an EA with an old school buddy on Facebook who is supposed to be at the function.) We are currently separated but do not hate each other. In fact, we seem to get along fairly well.
During her last reunion five years ago, I met a husband of one of her school friends and we've kept in contact. During a recent discussion, he asked if I was going to the upcoming reunion. I told him my plans were up in the air as we have separated. He said "I know what you mean." He said his W told him she is leaving when the kids are out of the house. He described his W has friends who are going through divorces and it seems like they all commiserate on how bad their marriages are. He told me he loved his wife and doesn't want a divorce. He also made statements of doubt(that I've made myself) that he is not sure if he can change into someone else that she is needing or looking for.
I said "STOP", you have to read DB. Your W is telling you what is coming. You are in the middle of this but you can change it. I bought him the DB book and gave it to him the next day.
He called my yesterday to tell me his W messaged him. His W had been talking to my W and told him they were probably going together to the reunion (without him also). I again told him to immediately read DB and I would call him in a couple days to discuss.
I am guessing the W's are sitting on their pity pots seeing who has the worst marriage. I know his wife has very strong Christian principles. I am hoping that if he can work on his marriage and make positive steps forward, that might help my marriage, and vise versa. I hurt so bad for him as I know what is coming if he doesn't work on it.
I know I am to continue working on myself, not pursuing, talk about the relationship, etc. This was a blow to hear yesterday, but I also know the event is still a month and a half away and am trying to act as if positive changes will come my way.
