Not of lot action in my sitch this week, aside from moving into 60 days to the eligible filing date. Did have some correspondence via txt with the W.
W: Thank you for the flowers
Me: You're welcome. I hope you are doing well and feeling better. I would like to do you a favor, not something that requires you to see me. Just something to help you out. Pick up groceries, run an errand, something to help you out while you recover. You name it.
W: I'm good. The kids are all taken care of. I just wish I could get back to normal routine again. I've been out of work for a week and bored to death cause I can't do anything. Wouldn't be so bad if I could sleep while I lay around but I haven't been able to sleep either. [censored]!
Me: I'm glad you're feeling better. I'm sorry you're bored and can't sleep. What can I do for you? I could be your sight unseen housekeeper if you like.
W: The house stays pretty clean. I know you don't believe that.
Me: Sure I do. I'd be happy to do anything to help you out. If you'd like your boredom squashed for an hour or so that could also be arranged.
W: SS1 and SS2 just got home. They've been gone all weekend so they're blabbing my ears off now. Lol
Me: They're just happy to see their Mom. Please tell them I said hello. <sent a pic of my new shoes>. I know you dig my Sperry's ;-) lol
W: That's funny :-)
Me: I'm a funny guy, hope you feel better soon. I hope you get some sleep this evening. Please tell squirt (SD) I said hey too. Good night.
COUPLE DAYS PASS
W: What's your new mailing address again?
I didn't respond and half hour later she sends ??? and then calls me I didn't answer.
Me 4 hours later: <Address> You do have an iphone right? lol ;-) How are you doing and how is <sister>?
W: I'm ok. Can't quit stressing over work. <sister> is good. Her feeding tube has to stay in another two weeks and it hurts her but she's ok.
Me: What's up at work
W: Same old same ole
Me: I hope things get better for you. I have to develop, document, implement, and present to executive management a new departmental quality process by 8/1 while still working my old job. I hope you get some good rest tonight.
So really nothing going on here, aside from my lightly stupid pursuit. I assume she was asking for my address to send the car payment, which is now 4 days late since it was due on the 26th. I haven't mentioned this in any way which is a 180 for me, I figure it will probably show in the mail today but I won't know until next week b/c I'm enjoying another weekend on the road! :-)
<MindReading Alert> She is still using my music streaming service and constantly playing the "woe is me/I messed up/take me back titles". She apparently puts Unchained Melody and Best I Ever Had on repeat along with a number of other "I messed up titles". That got me spun up at a point in time now I just find it somewhat humerous.
Sunday is my SD birthday. I got her a simple gift and plan to drop it at their mailbox either Sunday or Monday. Otherwise no reaching out from me, we'll see when she hits me up the next time.
I'm happy and having a great time. I think when I've looked back I always viewed our relationship in rose colored glasses. It's pretty awesome doing what I want, when I want, 100% of the time. I ran 20 miles this week and had two ladies strike up a conversation on the trail. I've definitely got my mojo back and am in the best shape since I met my wife. I can honestly say I'm not worried about this anymore, I have reached the indifference state. Should she have a change of heart it will take significant thought on my part to consider it now. I have four solid female suitors pretty much chasing me. This has given me a new perspective on women in general. I am not entertaining these women, but it is amazing to see how indifference/showing no interest in their advances makes them go crazy! Women are a trip... The divorcebusting principles also apply outside of DB I guess... I wish I would have figured this out 20 years ago... I'm still just doing me for now, looking forward to a lot of relaxing and the pool this weekend.
I'm glad to see all of you are doing well, good luck to all in your respective sitch's!
me 38 W 30 T 3 M in 05/2010 Separated 08/2011 Stephchildren (all hers) SS17, SS12, SD8 I filed 8/27, she countered I filed response 9/5 Anxiously waiting on the judge!
