hi bill, i know how you feel about telling people. i haven't told anyone but my sister and cousin and one old friend who lives 700 miles away.
come to think of it, no one in my town except my son and his family. i'm just too embarrassed. i kept hoping i wouldn't need to but hope is running out and i think you may be right, maybe i would be more into my life if i did.
my H told several people at work. one was a good "work" friend and we socialized a couple of times yearly with him and his wife. the other was his boss. needless to say, i'm sure the entire office knows now and then some. it hurt when he told me but i asked him so that's what happens when you ask.
as for all the holidays and special events your wife seems to be ignoring, i'm going through that, too. he's not totally ignoring things (i get a card or a text) but he doesn't live with me so we don't interact beyond that.
i can tell you that holidays are tough. i'm not looking forward to the july 4th. we always did things together for the holidays and i'm sure he's doing things with his family.
i would encourage you to plan something with your kids for the special occasions in your life. you can let your wife know of your plans but don't invite her. if she wants to go, she'll invite herself. if you do, it's pursuing and putting pressure on her and she'll resent it.
but you can enjoy life without her.
M:63 H:53 S:41, SS:28, SS:25, SD:23 M:15 T:16
Bomb:12/17/11, "I think we should go our separate ways." H moves to his mother's house, 4/1/12 12/21/12: H moves back home, piecing
