Excellent advice. Another new development. H, originally, didn't care too much about the dating site, just told me to be careful, but came down today pointing his finger at me and ordering me to be quiet while he spoke. He told me what I did was totally inappropriate (I know this) and how dare I do it in his house when he is paying the bills. We were going to fastrack this thing at the lawyers during the week. All I could do was agree with him. He continued to badger me with his threats of divorce and other accusations until I was forced to say that I was no longer going to accept the emotional abuse and intimidation tactics he uses with me when I do something he doesn't like (usually small things). This has been his pattern for 12 months now.
I think this must have been a 180 because he turned on his heels. Unfortunately my 18 year old son overheard and came into the room. He told his father that I needed some love and care and although what I did wasn't right, he could understand. H then turned on me again and accused me of turning the kids against him. I said what else can you blame on me. H is on the edge of a breakdown. I had to say this...you must get help...the family is suffering and you are unwell. He drove off in a rage to work (he is a workaholic).
