GALis not new to me. My H has been a shift worker for 25 years and I have always been independant and had to keep myself occupied on a social level, I have a great network of friends and enjoy many activies. SO GAL would not be making a huge impact on him. Thanks for the response. My 180's are that because I am too "controlling" I have let go of the reigns and don't question him about anything, I have completely let go of the household financial issues (he has me manage the finances and then complains that I have to say we can't afford it when the bills need to be paid. Again because of his job and my independance I have always had a long leash to do what he wants...so the 180's aren't making a huge difference either. When I say i'm moving forward I mean I'm not going to dwell on the mistakes I have made and keep DB'ing to the best of my ability.
