[LITB]

You stated later in your situation that you had begun dating someone else. How was that for you?

It was great at the beginning, because it was nice to have someone’s full and complete attention. Unfortunately or fortunately depending how you look at it, that full and complete attention required me to reciprocate it. It was more than I was willing to give at that point. I broke it off and hurt someone. It certainly wasn’t my intention. One of my regrets.

How did it make you feel about yourself and your situation?

When the dating began, I felt that my M was over and I was going to live my life with what I knew. I was a single man. Believe me, my intent was not to get my W back.

How did your W take it (I recall she was happy for you initially, but did that change?).

Her demeanor did change. When I dropped our children off with her and she knew that I was going to be spending time with my GF, she gave me the cold shoulder.

I didn’t care. It wasn’t my problem. I wasn’t going to stop living.

If you are asking if me dating played a role in our reconciliation, I would say to a small degree it did.

The FB thing turned out to be a bit of a fiasco. My W didn’t like it and doesn’t like it to this day. The thing is that she had absolutely no input on how I was living. I reminded her of that when she called me upset about it.

2.) There was a pretty long period of time when you dropped off the boards for a bit. It would appear a lot of things were going on at that point. How were you spending that time? Did you interact much with your w then? What was the R like?

I was just living. I wasn’t thinking about my sitch or M anymore.

We interacted very little. When we did, it was positive and about our children. She admitted that she had gone “businesslike” on me for awhile. It didn’t even register with me, because my life and my happiness was no longer dependent on her.

One thing that I haven’t mentioned is that her R with OM (her HS sweetheart) wasn’t going well. He was still the spineless D-Bag that he was in his younger days. So when I began dating, reality was setting in for her.

Ask away. I don’t mind answering Crimson.