And to add to what Cadet has posted...it will take as long as it takes for each and every mlcers until all of the issues have been faced and resolved.
Some may take a long time and others less time...it all depends upon the mlcer and their childhood issues.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
