A New Path - I just left my wife

[tpc1977]

I totally understand the legal aspect. I really do.

My goal is to still win my wife's heart. I have a piece of paper where I wrote out several things not to forget. It's between my iPhone and cover. I can see it through the logo hole on the cover. Whenever I touch the phone I rub the piece of paper and remind myself what it is I'm in it for. It's for eternity. I made a promise to my wife and I am sticking to that promise. But right now she needs to learn to stand and fight. Something she forgot how to do - because of me, her OM, her friends, and her family all enabling her.

I walked away to give her space. I went dim to see if she knew who I really was to her. It's painful as he77 right now, but I'm vigilant. I talk to my girls everyday about how I am and how they are and what are goals are together for my wife.

I tell them every day to love and support her like it may be their last day together. I want her to feel the love of her children like nothing else so she can see what she may be losing out on if she continues down this road of destruction.

I told them that I was stepping away physically - if only temporarily - to give her space that she wants. I tell them that I love her more than anything and I want to see her get clean. I smile and act cheerful around my children all the time. I also talk straight forward about what they are supposed to do even though I may not be around. As parents we gave them instructions on the house, their curfews, their attitudes and I tell them to adhere to it regardless - and not to undermine my authority even though I'm not home presently.

Again my main goal is to win my wife's heart fully and to renew our vows in the future. It's on my list in my phone and I repeat it to myself every day. Several times a day. It was my goal 3 years ago and still stands today. It also says don't try to change what you can't (my wife and her situation), but what you can (myself).