I heard that you were here again. I have been wondering how you were.
I was hoping that I would find you in a different place with this though.
WOW, a lot has changed since we last spoke. A lot of things that I think were brewing last year. At least with you.
Reading you, I get a mixed pot of emotions from you, and I think that you are spinning around, looking for someone to tell you that you did the right thing. Truth is, that only you can know the answer to that one buddy.
Will you find support here ?
Will you find people that understand you?
Will you find people that hurt with you ?
I will bet that you will, and you will find a lot of people that will have anger toward you for being the one who walked away.
I know that I will support whatever decision that you make, as long as I see peace from within you when you speak of it....
You are the one that has to be a peace with that decision.
And I don't think that you are........yet
You stated a boundary, you enforced it....nuff said...right ?
You were at peace with yourself enough to set the boundary, then you should be fine with either outcome....and I think that you are.
What I don't see, are some clear goals for what it is that you are working toward ???
You speak as if you are done, over, caput....
Then you speak of being there for her, and watching to see if she is hurting, or happy, etc...
Do you always run your races backward ????
Cause I do feel as though you are trying to forge forward while looking backward...
If I am wrong, please let me know...
So I ask you this...
What is it, that you want to see happen with this ???
Reconciliation ?
Divorce ?
Just a separation ?
Cause you are leading your future right now....you and you alone. Your wife should have very little to do with your decision.
As far as the legal stuff....
Don't be too hard on Starsky...although he may come across differently, he also cares about each and every poster that he interacts with. He has seen a LOT in his time here, and there aren't too many posters , whose advice I would rather follow.
He is spot on about the abandonment issue. By leaving the house, you did place yourself in an awkward legal position.
I would also recommend that you get some legal counsel in the near future.
I think that you should really think about what it is that you are working toward....
It really is good to see you posting again T...
I just want you to be 100% sure of any decision that you make..
