I think everyone would agree in this situation that I just need to continue to stop pursuing, no contact and no R talk, right? Stay happy and upbeat during kid exchanges and continue to work on the things that I have struggled with before... ie cleaning, anger management, GALing.
I think if I have a clear cut plan from this point forward and I refer to it often then I can have a better idea as to how to handle myself when I start to get emotional. I would really love to know how I should handle our next counseling session.
I know the therapist is going to ask H what he's decided and I don't think he's ready to go there yet. Should we just not go? Or I can tell the therapist that we're only interested in discussing the kids for the time being.
25, your comment last night about being benignly neglecting and rejecting really had me thinking. A LOT!! I wondered what you meant by that I still SEEM to excuse it. I only ask because I'm really wanting to explore this more and get your perspective. I do think that was a huge problem in our R. I think both of us got to a point of neglecting each other and feeling like, well, this is just how life is now.
I like the way you make me think really hard about my past behavior and how I can improve. I don't want to make excuses... just trying to figure out why I was doing what I was doing and how I can avoid that type of dynamic between us in the future. I'm finding that the more I think about getting back together with H, the more I can see how things can easily fall back in to their old ways. I want to steer clear from that like the plague.
Me: 32 H: 32 M 9 yrs #1 D7 #2 S5 #3 D2 Bomb 8/12/11 H moved out 8/14/11 PA started w/H & OW in 1/12 - found out 3/24/12 Got my own place 8/25/12 H & OW move in together 9/15/12 Still married.
