I told him that it is becoming more clear to me that W is not taking any steps to come closer to me so I need to take steps to move farther away. I had been thinking that I was keeping the road home smooth and paved by always being there to rescue my wife, but a friend explained that the road that needs to be smooth and paved is a different one than the one my W is currently on.
The road she is on needs to be full of bumps and potholes for her to ever see that the other road, (the smooth one back to a healthy marriage) is better than the one she is on now.
That's a wise counselor, 2tP. That is precisely right!
Congrats on the revelations and the epiphany. I'm not quite sure, but I think you may have just turned your Corner.
