Thanks everyone,

I'm still not 100% sold on taking anti-depressants. How they work was my wife's PhD topic and what isn't known about the process is quite worrying!
Scaredsilly, I know you are right about the need to grow and how only then can it be a better marriage. I keep telling myself the same thing, it just isn't penetrating my fog yet. It definitely isn't getting anywhere breaching my wife's fog!
Accuray, I'll get started on your exercise when I write in my journal tonight. I may have to write multiple scores down though as it seems to change on a hourly basis :-)