Thanks for chiming in with your post from 06/23. I have re-read it a few times. It is a good summary for me as my H is clearly moving on. He is moving into his 2nd rental this coming weekend. The lease on his first one is up and he couldn't renew it. I broached the subject of him moving home but he is clearly not interested in this as an option. He seems resolute to move forward with dissolving the marriage.
Twink, I am curious if your H acted on his request for a division of your assets? My H is working on this it seems as he has mentioned a few details in our recent conversation. I have not seen anything in writing but anticipate this is coming. I know I will have to secure legal representation soon if he presents me with anything. I am wondering if you had a difficult time finding an attorney considering your H like mine is an attorney. We live in a relatively small community in New England, and my H is well known in the legal world here. I don't know if I should go outside of this community or not. Lots of things to weigh these days, none of it being of my choice.
Our youngest son goes off to college this fall. Once we get him launched, I anticipate our paths will not cross for an extended period of time, perhaps even until the holidays. Maybe this will give me a mental reprieve of sorts to help me move on.
The disparity between H view of our marriage and mine still alarms me. At the moment, this troubles me the most. Did I have it so wrong? And if he has been as miserable as he expresses, why is he not the epitome of confidence in moving on. All three of our sons have commented on how sad and depressed he appears. I know it is a senseless task to try to connect the dots and my energy should be spent in other productive ways. I need to do more walking the walk and less talking it for sure.
