Yes you have to look at the positive. I know that you R with the kids was troubled (at best) but Bill is right he wants you there WITH HIM not FOR HER.
My DB coach said that I have to accept he good and not want it how I want it. He's inviting you to share a special occassion with him, you can make him feel good by going or you can make him feel bad (in DB coaches words a failure) by not going.
I highly doubt any 22 year old would let the spotlight not be on them.
Sometimes we make a decision into a bigger thing than it is.
Go enjoy his company feel honoured that on this special day he wants you by his side.
