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[ClingingToHope]

Interesting talk with D13 tonight. The teen angst continues to grow. She said last night her and XW got into a huge fight because D13 was going over all the bad things about herself and how few good things she has going for her.

Really, right now most of her issues are boy issues. She gained weight when she hit puberty. Her mom has ballooned so she doesn't have a positive role model there. The fact almost all of her friends have boyfriends and she doesn't really bothers her -- although she says it's more than that.

We talked about validation. I've been struggling with it ever since XW and I split. I told her most people hate how they look.

Here's the funny thing. XW blew up at her and said D13 is clinically depressed and should start seeing a therapist.

I told XW repeatedly when D13 was 11 and 12 that I was concerned about her and thought she should be seeing a therapist.

XW sent me a curt email saying that D13 (then 11 and 12) was fine, that she was only telling me these things because that's what I wanted to hear, to hear that the divorce was the problem.

Sigh. I kept the email.