however, i feel my presence and the discomfort associated with it would overshadow what the day is all about -- celebrating his daughter's graduation. in other words, i would be the spectacle, and it would take the spotlight off of her where it belongs.
i think everyone there would be uncomfortable, including H, even if he doesn't realize it currently.
before i could go, he needs to first do the work of re-integrating me into his family by inviting me to gatherings where there is less on the line. in other words, if you want me at your D's graduation so badly, you have to first lay the foundation that would make it feel differently to everybody.
afterall, it's not her inviting me and it's her very special day.
i welcome and am grateful for all advice.
M:63 H:53 S:41, SS:28, SS:25, SD:23 M:15 T:16
Bomb:12/17/11, "I think we should go our separate ways." H moves to his mother's house, 4/1/12 12/21/12: H moves back home, piecing
