In the Land of Confusion, where the WAH pursues...

[zig]

i think watching going ahead and watching the show on your own is the equivalent of labug's words to me:

just keeping moving towards being the strongest confident woman you can be and h will catch up if he wants to.

don't give a pooh if he's missed some episodes. keep moving forward and he can always catch up if he wants to

(( ))
zig

ps so glad your blanket is coming along so great. wish we could see it. you'll have to use your writing skills and describe it us instead:)

[vera be fierce]

Thanks zig. You're right about him having to catch up. I like that line

H emailed this morning (just shy of 48 hours NC) to let me know that he got really great feedback from his work meeting yesterday and he sounded pretty excited about that. Then he dropped in the old stranger "Hope you're well" line and something about the weather here.

I'll write back and validate later tonight. Work is keeping me busy today!

[scaredsilly]

i really hate it when they give those lines that could be to anyone. my H will say, "well, girl, i ..."

or, "enjoy your day" at the end of a text.

i'm not "girl" and save that for your customers! i would rather not even communicate if i have to hear those.

sorry, just irks me.

[LIO]

Thanks for the tip, LIO. I generally use Benjamin Moore because I love the colors and the no-VOC stuff. There was some white globs at the bottom of the can which indicates to me that something was wrong in the mix because the paint was dark blue! Oh well. It was fun while it lasted. I'm definitely going to move back toward the creamy colors if you have any recommendations

How's the house coming along?
I was perusing the paints Benajamin Moore. I tend to stick to the creamy linen colors + blues and greens because it's calming and i want someone to feel peaceful walking in my house.
Check out the 'Woodlawn blue' (that's a accent wall in my kitchen), 'lighthouse landing' (the main paint throughout the house), and 'easter hunt' (my laundry room needed color) and 'van courtland blue' in a spare room, to get an idea of how I painted my house My moulding is white, curtains are white, carpet is tan, and I have some brown handtowels along with some blue and green towels to blend all the rooms.

[vera be fierce]

Haha LIO - I also have a ton of blues/greens/grays in the house. I realized it made me feel a little down so I repainted the kitchen REALLY BRIGHT YELLOW last fall and like it much better I will check out some of the ones you mentioned - some of those names are familiar!

I validated H's email from earlier today after work. Then I got another one about an emergency situation affecting some friends, and requesting that I pass along congratulations for friends of mine who just had a baby. He's friends with them on FB so there's no reason he couldn't do it himself. Thoughts on how to respond? My first instinct was to respond (eventually) to let him know that he could tell them himself.

Sometimes my situation seems so idiotic and banal (aka "how best to respond to random emails?") compared to some of the things that other people are going through on this board.

I think I'm going to do 5 more minutes on this blanket and then get to bed.

[vera be fierce]

Oops - forgot to answer your actual question. I did a coat of paint on the windowsills to refresh (they'd gotten really scuffed up in that room) and it's drying tonight. I'm going to re-set the room so it's mostly normal for when H comes back. I haven't done much else on the house! Calling a realtor is on my to-do list for this week and I've gotten pretty much everything else done that was on my list so I have to face it and get it done!

[LIO]

Awesome!

(Yellow is definitely a cheery color. I admit, I am sooo anti-yellow I painted every yellow wall in this house the first day I moved in [hehe]. I live directly behind a yellow house, lined up perfectly with my bedroom and kitchen, I feel like it's a yellow wall I can't touch. Interestingly you'd think I'd like cheery colors like yellow being that here it is the end of June and STILL raining constantly and the skies are dreary most of the time... but nope.. yellow ain't going to be on my wall anytime soon (or grey for that matter!))

Now be sure to have something else on your 'to-do for Verab' list.

From my experience this week: (I just put my house up on the market on Friday) Friday afternoon to Monday I felt down because so much of my time/energy/focus was consumed by getting the house ready, I didn't have time to think about H, until I had nothing to focus on... which lead to a blow up on Sunday night. So now I have a new goal to work on (a new LIO focused one) and a mini-goal of keeping the house as perfect as it looks in the listing pictures.


So just a word of advice - get a VERAB goal!

I don't think that your sitch is idiotic. I can relate to yours as I can relate to someone who is struggling with more severe circumstances. I think there is an underlying 'sameness' in most people's situations in that the LBS is left with lots of questions, no answers that we can see yet. Along with a feeling of being lost and scared. But overall, doing the db'ing in any circumstance gives back a certain sense of control over our lives. So even what to say in an email can translate to having to stop and think about the words we use, and understand that we can't lead by our emotions.

[Brit45]

Be thankful rather than thinking its banal. I read some sitches and think I'm so lucky he isn't it didn't do x, y, and z.

[vera be fierce]

Thanks, ladies. I am thankful in a way that things aren't worse (I think I mentioned it in a previous thread).

LIO - I'm giggling a little about the yellow wall you can't paint.

My Vera goal for today is to finish painting my nails! And then get to the gym! I made some pizza earlier this week and have been eating a lot of it and it shows on the scale

I have been trying to think of other activities I wouldn't have done before to do. I might check out this meetup thing. I thought I might be in good enough physical condition after recovering from my illness that I might look into something disciplined like martial arts. At the very least I'm going to purchase a few sessions with a trainer at my gym. I want my buff arms back! I have a doctor's appointment next week to get a letter so that I can hopefully get reimbursed for an expense I had . . . once I have that I will feel better about paying for the trainer and possibly getting that new dresser I want (or at least paying someone to re-paint the room I just messed up with the accent wall this weekend! haha).

I think my biggest me goal is getting this blanket done. It has to be finished in a little over a week! Every time I work in a new color it's like I finished a little mini goal. That keeps me going on it.

This morning I broke down into uncontrollable sobs after I got an email from a friend who had to evacuate their home due to the wildfires. I'd sent an email last night after H told me they had to evacuate but I didn't think it was actually an emergency situation. The friend had posted a picture of the smoke from their bedroom in the morning but apparently had very little time to get home from work after getting notice of the evacuation. They were able to grab some things, and the dogs, and are safe but think there's little chance that their house is still there. It's actually H's friend but I wrote back to tell them if they needed absolutely anything to let me know. Just a reminder in my inbox of what really matters.

[vera be fierce]

Ran another personal best tonight. TGIEndorphins!!

Feeling a bit conflicted again as H will be coming home tomorrow night. I'd settled into a routine after initially being unsettled that he was gone for so long, and now I have to get used to sharing the house again. I'd better get my GAL in order, stat! At the very least I will be continuing to work on this blanket.

I didn't get around to calling any realtors today. Tomorrow.