Zig, I didn't see a response here. One thing that stands out: your H is resistant to suggestions. That's likely true. But DB is about you first and then the marriage. My suggestion here? Focus on what you *can* change - you. Be the change you want to see in others without expectation. Seems Zen, but it really is what it is about.
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
