Even though you are on moderation right now and it will take a while for your posts to be seen by others, try to include spacing in your posts and use this thread to journal and make observations or even to vent.
Eventually, more members will join to support you and you will eventually get off moderation.
Do you think backing off and letting your W just talk, and validate her without offering any advice or fix for her, might be a good 180 to try?
Anything you do can take time. Days if not weeks. So when you try something, you will need to be patient and consistent. Eventually, you will know if it is working, not working or making things worse. Stop, if it appears to be making things worse. But if you try too many things at once, you may not actually know which one is generating change.
