so defeated and scared silly

[SolutionOriented]

SS, I'm not the greatest at offering advice because I don't follow it when it's offered to me. However, by attending the graduation this may open up a line of communication between you two. And, if it doesn't, you will know in your heart that you made an effort to reconcile with her. She may be hurting as well and unsure of how to approach you so this might be a good way for you two to reconnect or at least have your 'say' and put the past behind you as you mentioned above. God speed.