But she doesn't want a caretaker, so she says, and I've realized (and still working on) that caretaking isn't a healthy relationship base.
It's hard to describe it but I think when one sees their partner as just their caretaker, the romance, the challenge, and the feeling of having an equal partner changes the dynamics. It gets old and boring in many ways, yet there's this feeling that we can't leave our partner to struggle and do things for themselves. My H told me this in counseling, that he felt extremely guilty for wanting to walk away because he didn't know how I would manage. I showed him how I could manage ..... and it was that change that brought him back around.
Do you see your W as your equal partner, as someone you feel passion and romance for, or just someone you have to take care of because she'll sink if you don't?
