Thank you Jessica. I'm surprised with all the people who've been through this that there isn't one really helpful resource people can recommend for us wives who find ourselves in this spot.

I'm currently evaluating between a financial planner who specializes in marriage and divorce ($) or collaborative divorce professionals ($$$) and am taking it slowly since it's overwhelming and my H doesn't appear to have solid plans yet.

I think I'm going to throw the $250 at a consultation with the FP who specializes in marriage and divorce.

Adinva 51, S20, S18
M24 total
6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out
9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50
5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend
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Happiness is a warm puppy.