While sitting there I had a moment of clarity, I thought I NEEDED to be with my W but know I see that I wanted to be with my W I don't NEED to be with her.
And just like that, I start to feel the pressure that has been in my chest since this began lifted.
This sounds like it was a powerful epiphany for you. Glad you experienced it, dscl.
It really is a liberating and eye-opening experience when we realize that we are and will continue to be fine by ourselves. And that when we are in a healthy R, we CHOOSE the R and still remain the same healthy individual that we are outside of an R. We don't NEED the other person or the R in order to be whole people or to be happy. We don't depend on the other person for our identity or our emotional well-being.
Have you had time to get into some self-improvement/GAL actvities? Any special activities or time with D planned or passed with the summer?
Me-53 W-49 D22,D18,D15 T-Since-12/2001 Married-9/2004 She Moved Out-5/28/2010 Piecing start-04/2011 Now-together Thread http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2079304
