R, yep, gotta have a sense of humor through all this. Helps get you through.
First, sorry that your children have to watch all this. That is what makes me sad and angry more than anything else about all this.
As your w is in crisis, she is self medicating. Something is wrong inside her, so it must be because of the person closest to her.
Not until she looks inside will she begin to be able to see that it is her.
She needs to walk this path. Your job is to let her.
As for your children, the best thing you can do for them is to make sure that you do nothing to cause harm to their relationship with their mother. It is hers to forge with them.
Remember always that they are very intuitive. They know way more than we think. They are always watching.
Your job is to show them how to navigate through life's problems with courage and strength. What a gift you have been given.
I know all too well that the financial part of this suckks.
