thanks, bill.
he never really validated my complaints about his daughter. to him, she's still his little girl (22) and he has to protect her.

i never really had a lot of resentment towards his family until the bomb. since then (and it's been 7 months) i haven't heard a word from any of them. maybe my expectations are unrealistic but i have done so much for his mother, sisters, kids, and other relatives. they always said i was family.

family members call and ask how you are. i'm afraid to call them because i don't know what he's told them.

from what you describe, i can understand how your W would be overwhelmed by your family's actions.

my mother was the same way with my sister's daughter and my son. however, my sister had all kinds of "strings" attached to that arrangement and i didn't so in a way, it was better not to have her so involved.

if my H and i R, i will want much smaller doses of his family. i hope you're validating her feelings, even though you have a loyalty towards your family? it helps a lot.

M:63
H:53
S:41, SS:28, SS:25, SD:23
M:15
T:16

Bomb:12/17/11, "I think we should go our separate ways."
H moves to his mother's house, 4/1/12
12/21/12: H moves back home, piecing