In home separation? Off / On? Still WAW? Dunno

[breakdownbill]

Need to start a new thread... here's the links to my previous threads

I didn't see it coming part 1

I didn't see it coming part 2

I really needed to start a new thread because I feel like some events have passed & that I need a new focus & a re-evaluation of my sitch.

After the bomb[s], we agreed on a Relationship talk ceasefire until after my degree was finished in May. We both stuck to that
& after my degree finished neither of us brought it up.

we had a family holiday booked for 2 weeks in Florida - we went on it as a family - still no relationship talk.

Been back 5 days - still no relationship talk.

It doesn't feel like we are together & yet it doesn't feel like we are separated (at least it doesn't for me).

I have no idea whether my wifes EA / PA is over as she still dances with him.

I do feel a lot of resentment still from my W, particularly towards my family (she still won't see them - been nearly 3 months). When I've invited my W to go to things, for instance a party next month for my graduation - she says no instantly, so I don't think she wants to or is ready to do something with just me, like even go out for coffee.

I guess I feel really in limbo as to where I am right now & want to get some direction & re-jig my personal goals.

I've ordered the No More Mr Nice Guy book, I think that will be a big help, because I really do start need to put me first for a change in lots of situations.

I'd just love some advice right now as to how others have dealt with this limbo & no relationship talk, how to look for & read signs better.

I'm going to re-read DR & try & get some new goals in the meantime.

Bill