They're Cohabitating, I'm Capitulating

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I feel as though he's given up parts of himself again too quickly in a new relationship. Which is why some of Cheryl's advice didn't set well with me. If I seduce him, then I'm just pursuing him, taking away his choice. And I think in terms of core values I don't want our story to be that I seduced him away from someone else. I want him to make a choice, stand on his own two feet, etc.

I don't think 'seducing' is the right word for what you would want to do. You being inviting, a bit flirty, warm, funny, awesome - a cool person to be around, you know those people who always make others feel good just by being around them? He always has a choice. He can choose to stay where he is, or decide to go back with you. But it is his choice. Unless you decide on going over packing up his stuff and bringing it back over with you.