I am so sorry. My H filed for divorce as well just a couple of weeks ago. We had a lot of problems due to finances as well and me being a SAHM and not being driven to get a job.
I'm glad you started working on yourself. That is probably the best advice I have gotten so far.
Me:29; W:37 T: 6 M: 4 D: 2; SD: 14; SS: 17 H filed D: 6/13/12; H moved out: 6/14/12 H moved back in: 6/28/12 Confirmed EA: 8/12