Aww, tpc - I don't think STarsky meant that in a bad way. I think he just wanted to make sure that in your haste to get yourself out of a very painful situation, you weren't doing something that could get you messed up legally in terms of custody, support etc. I know that SOMEtimes, in some states, there's an advantage to staying in the marital home and getting your spouse to move out.
Also, while I agree it seems to make sense for your wife who is working part-time to have kid-ferrying duty - just ask yourself if that's safe? If your wife is still drinking, using drugs, whatever - can she be trusted to drive the kids around? Would they be better off in your care? Is that possible?
Also - please do everything you can to protect yourself financially. Talk to an attorney, but you may want to take half of any bank accounts and set it aside until you can work out the financials. Don't let her go in and clean you out. Cancel joint credit cards if you can. Just be smart about the practical business side of things.
