So the first thing is -- you are not going to tell your H your goals, because he IS resistant.
So of course your goal is to have him back and in love with you and committed. That is too big a goal right at this moment. Finding the smaller goals comes from exploring what you want. What are things you love about when you two were in love? What were you DOING together?
Going out for an ice cream? Cuddling on the sofa, etc?
Another way is to answer the MIRACLE question: If you woke up tomorrow and a miracle had occurred and everything was perfect again, what would be your FIRST clue that this has occurred? What would you be DOING differently -- or what would your HUSBAND be doing differently?
Start there--- and we will refine later. We will get to Power Packaging later too, because when you ask that question I feel like you are just dying to know some magic words that will make everything all right, and it won't happen like that. It will be ACTION.
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001
