when I said "you let her" check out of the m, I meant that you have put up with this loveless relationship I won't call a 'marriage," for 3+ years...and with little to show for it but time you won't get back.
Although from the sounds of it YOU are a better man than before and that's no small matter. Kudos for you digging deep to become the best man you can.
I also KNOW you will be more than "okay" without this woman in your life. Period.
As for the OM...
are you an officer? And he's enlisted? Brilliant career move...Oh, and she's cute and "fun" when she drinks?
Navy, to me that's not "fun"; so much as it's someone who drinks, thinking they "need it to Act" happy. Which is of course a problem drinker.
Who knows? Maybe your w will "wake up and smell the diapers" if you file. Like you said, there is a year waiting period.
In this state, a third of divorces filed are never completed and get dismissed. Surely a lot of those are folks who reconcile.
It could happen but I would not count on it. All we "KNOW" is nothing else has worked and it's getting worse now.
Enough said...and I am quite confident you will make some OW a happy woman b/c you will have learned to be your best self. I'm glad you are getting IC too.
Not positive about the "unconditional love" b/c we all sort of place conditions on our love. If my h hit me, or our children, I would not keep loving him.
But I love him now, as he is. Is that what you mean?
((( )))
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
