WHG: And so we file...

[workinghardguy]

Actually KD I go to my mom or my niece for respite when/if I need it. She has two sisters who live in town literally six blocks away (and both are unemployed) and a mom who lives the same distance from our town as my mom does. They just charge her money to watch the kids so she doesn't like to/want to ask them. Plus they have a "challenged" relationship.

I'd say I'm pretty darn flexible. In fact I've been accused of being too flexible and available in fact.

I've flexed to take them on my off weekends because her employer scheduled her. I've flexed here and there to take them so she can work overtime because she desperately needs the money.

This time I'm drawing the line. She needs to figure this out. It's not okay with me to toss the kids into my house, with no notice, so they can messy up my place, eat my food, and consume my utilities. Just so she can have a quiet place to study.

Sounds petty as I type it I guess, but it is what it is.

It's not that she needs me to be her source of respite.. it's that I'm the easy source of her respite. With her sisters or her mom there's a quid pro quo involved. Well, she chose this path. She can figure it out and if that means she has to swallow her pride and ask her family for help then I guess she'll have to do that.