Needing some guidance... 4

[jks]

The funny thing is... giving H space is so much easier now because I feel like I've been doing it for so long that it's now just a natural tendency. I have no desire to do things with him or plan for the future until he does make the actions to end his R with OW HIMSELF. I will not continue to pressure him to do so.

I did tell him last night that I don't want him coming back because of guilt. I want him to want to come back. He expressed to me that his situation with OW is just not a good one. It started from a bad place and he knows it really can't amount to anything good. He was really happy that the therapist said the things he said because he knows he needed to hear it. He said he was glad he came.

I am not going to pursue any longer. I want this man to work for me. I feel like I am a damn fine catch and he really is losing something wonderful, including a wonderful connection, in me that he will always regret if he truly chooses OW over me. He is a good man. I felt like I could see into his soul last night. We stared at each other for a long time. There's a lot to be said in just staring into a person's eyes. There's an energy that runs between the two of you that is undeniable.

I love the advice I'm getting here. I will take it in wholeheartedly. I know I have come so far and I plan to continue to be patient. My family is worth it.