SS….I hear what you’re saying the meaning of the words you wrote. I have never been controlling of her, quite the opposite, I’ve pretty much let her be in control. The things she wants to be her way at least from what she told me are the projects around the home, and I have no problem with that, whether the new kitchen counter is black or purple, are really mute to me, but I understand they are important to her. IMHO things would be much more out of her control in a S or D. Things would be dictated by agreements and courts. I have to believe it’s the 2 other major R in her life she has no control at all over.
The R with her mother and BFF, as I stated early on both have cancer and are actively undergoing treatment with not much hope in either situation. My W has in the last few months switched our family to pretty much all organic diet, at great cost to our monthly budget, and without asking input from me, I have been supportive of this. She reads and researches all the health websites and newsletters, she would love to have her mom and friend do this also but know she can’t control this…it frustrates her I can see. I know that I have contributed to the mess we’re in but I’m starting to feel there is more too it.
