The changes? I have no idea. How do you work harder? How do you go out more? It was, and still is a mystery to me. I honestly feel it's the changes that are being "projected" onto me by the W. I've never been able to get a straight answer out of my W as to what changed. What was better. And now my W isn't even interested in talking. Because I'll catch her out?
I must admit I did change - dug myself out of my hole of misery after the bombshell. Dusted myself off. Made myself nice (and smell even better). Did not avoid anywhere where I thought the W would be. In fact I made an effort to make my old haunts mine again. Spoke to my friends, did my things. And come to think of it (just now) became who my W first met! But time has marched on and the old ways have slipped away. Boy do I have some work to do!