need grace gave you good suggestions - i would follow them if i were you.
I'm just hoping and praying it will go away and prepared to do just about anything
get rid of that attitude ASAP, also.
you don't do anything. you do the things that work!!
look back and try to remember what you did that worked - start your 180's. my instinct is telling me that there's a bit of groveling in your energy - maybe not in your words/actions but in your energy. and it's coming through to wife and she's using it
so what if the letter says july 7th. hat's ridiculous - you can't be pressured into giving her what she wants just because ether sloped a random date on it.
get a bit pissed - it's a better place to be than where you're at which is in despair and fear. as long as you let the despair and fear dictate what your responses are you won't be able to take care of yourself.
the trick here is to move yourself up the emotional ladder first to a better place and then you can act in the way that's best for the sitch. here's how it goes lowest rung: despair and fear - nothing good happens there next one: anger, irritation, frustration - you can see the reality a bit clearer and see where your needs aren't being met next one: as those emotions release, they are replaced by a bit of clarity and then you can start seeing the more positive aspect and as you PMA gets more positive, you can start to look for the correct solution
the other thing to keep in mind is that these are NOT emotions that you show to your wife - these are what you go through yourself.
with your wife - ACT AS IF you are happy and co-operative. just don't co-operate in anything that doesn't serve your own interests - emotional, physical or financial
as for me being wise - lol - where on earth did you get that impression? you haven't read my crazy ranting posts,
the only thing i've wised up to lately is that staying in fear and despair is the one thing we need to get ourselves out and away from
will check in later . got to run
take care zig
me 46 H 38 M10yrs T 11 S10 BD ow 8/11 h filed 9/25/12
"if i could define enlightenment briefly, i would say it is the quiet acceptance of what is"
