swimming with turtles and some guidance

[labug]

one of the things that i'm dealing with now, is his constant request that ow and i become friends and that is what he would like. ugh - i don't even want to go there - but then of course - good opportunity for me to find out what it is behind that. pride, shame, the ultimate letting go - all things to be challenged with

I didn't quite understand the last part.

I have a friend who is good friends with her ex, she's happily remarried. He watches their house and dog when they're away and they do the same for him. Ex and friend's soon is in the military and they traveled together to see him graduate and when he returned from AFG. They relate more like brother and sister. It works for them but they've been divorced a long time.

Him expecting that of you and someone he's had in his life for a short-time is interesting. Helps assuage his guilt.