Friends with the OW, really? At least at this early stage.

I think unless that's something you really want to pursue, I'd let that go.

Would you be doing it for you, or for him?

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss