GWN, What you have shared in your last posting makes me wonder if you h was abused mentally, emotionall or sexually as a child. Something definitely happened to him that has created the mistrust and not feeling safe. Some day, he will open up to someone, but it's not going to be any time soon.
BTW, before Jack comes around...you might want to think about a new title and thread... you've hit the 101 mark!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
