Needing some guidance... 4

[gr8 day 2B alive]

JKS,

What you experienced last night was an extreme case of emotions. PLease be very carefulwith what your H says to you.

I do think your H is very confused at the present time. He is making excuses why he can't come back:

He said, one thing I've always been concerned about, though, is that we will never work because I've messed things up between us so much and that you may never really be able to forgive me. I told him, if I didn't think that I could forgive him, I would have been gone a long time ago.

Reality is setting in on him. Imagine what the reality of you filing for D will have on him?

I told him that I did not like myself before, but I like myself now. He said, I can tell. You have this confidence about you. You seem so much more put together. He noticed that I look more in shape too, which he liked. I told him that it was sad that something like this had to happen in order for me to wake up and start living.

Isn't it amazing when we feel good about ourselves other people notice it? keep up the good work here.

Things have definitely progressed in a positive direction and it felt very different with him tonight. He seemed attracted to me. He did tell me at one point that I was very sexy. I don't know... I will continue on with no contact, once again, until he pulls his head out of his butt.

Agreed.

May I suggest if you go to FC again to keep it about the kids? until he has no contact with OW you really can't begin to work on the new M.

JKS,
do you know what it will take from him for YOU to commit to the R?

Focus on what it will take for the M to work, not on the ramifications of you two being together.
gr8