KD - the boat information is sort of his, but not entirely because I am cosigner on the loan.
It's good for me that he's taking it on because then I won't have the residual debt upon selling it (as stated in the separation agreement re: shared debt). However I need to know when he plans to get my name off the loan (how is not as important...unless he's getting a partner, in which case I will want compensation).
Snodderly - I don't think he was testing my reaction for a couple of reasons. One, we've discussed this previously, and I support him keeping the boat as it's better for me financially. And two, I have always been reasonable in my engagement with him.
The devil, of course, is in the details, his expectations, and what I am willing to accept/do.
So he HAS to tell me at some point. I will remain oblivious up to a point. I have been patient, kind and generous with him up to now and don't want to be taken advantage of.
My guess is he'll bring it up when we're fishing. I'll go from there, depending on what he says.
KD - I think you're on to something with your theory about H telling his D about my career plans. Gives the impression that everything's tickity boo with us, that I'm happy with the split and we're BFFs. Makes him less the bad guy, too. I just have a hard time reconciling his willingness to talk about me but not talk to me.
Maybe the fantasy he said he might be living in when we first split has changed, and now the fantasy is with me.
Snodderly - I also think you're right about conveyers of information. I'm sure H's D shares our conversations with him. At the very least I'd guess she wants to rub his nose in the fact that she and I have a great relationship (H might be pulling a "me too!" thing).
This time around she could be telling him that I'm turning my *bad luck* into an opportunity, have had enough life decisions imposed on me, have a buyer for my house should I choose to sell, and I'm thinking of leaving the province if not the country.
At any rate, I'll know more very soon.
me 45 H 46 T 5 M 2.5 BD Sept 6 2011 OW Sept 8 2011 Threw him out Sept 8 2011
