Sometimes mlcers manipulate others to do their bidding and he may have done that so that she could go back and tell him your reaction.
My W has used both third parties AND the kids to get info passed on to me.
Thinking about that briefly, now. Not being detached and therefore still reacting to my W's words or action, can lead her to feel unsafe with me. Unable to tell me things.
My new focus is to get immersed into a connection with my W to practice my detachment and hopefully I can be someone she feels emotionally safe with, again.
