They're Cohabitating, I'm Capitulating

[zig]

TBH the idea of him saying okay I want to work on things scares me. Is that weird? I don't know where we'd start...so that's why this "just enjoying him" is a good place. I am thinking of him as another option in my ever increasing big world. and we'll see.


oh my god, brit - thanks for being so open - THAT ^^^ has been scaring the [censored] out of me for a couple of months now!!

i've been very confused about it and not known what to do about that feeling.

and now reading your post and SS's after that - SS everything you write is spot on about why you're scared. I think we maybe scared because we are NOT used to expressing what we truly feel - remember we are the ones who used anger, resentment, control and all these other dysfunctional behaviors which were actually a front for being too petrified on a very deep level, to be able to say to our S's - i don't like what you are doing, i'm not happy, this is hurting me.

what scares the cr@p out of us is that if they decide to come back, eventually it will be our turn, and we will have to be able to express what we really felt.

is part of being scared that fact that we don't completely trust ourselves yet to be able to do that? that our changes are really in place?

your prof - really put it well brit - there's food for thought there-

zig