What I don't understand is that I know that I have to let go but I seem to be finding her more and more attracted to her the more independent she becomes.
We chase that which runs away from us.
Your immediate goal IMO should be detaching.
This is hard to do because it means fielding your emotions on a regular basis and they will be coming at you constantly.
I always tell people that your pain will guide you if you pay attention to it.
How many times will you put your hand in the fire before you recognize you shouldn't?
I put a rubber band around my wrist and snapped it whenever I thought about my W.
My wrist was raw and red I will tell you at first. It is not the physical pain but it makes you AWARE of what it is doing to you.
You must first get to a calmer place before you can reflect on what got you here.
Right now your W is taking up too much of your brain space.
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
