"TBH the idea of him saying okay I want to work on things scares me. Is that weird? I don't know where we'd start...so that's why this "just enjoying him" is a good place. I am thinking of him as another option in my ever increasing big world. and we'll see."

brit, this is exactly how i feel now, too! it's amazing how we change during this time of introspection. some of what i'm reading about co-dependency is also contributing to this feeling.

all the reasons i became resentful and bitter would have to be addressed; not just HIS reasons. in the beginning, i would have done ANYTHING to get him back. but now i realize that i was doing just about EVERYTHING he needed and wanted during the marriage and that was a major problem.

what's scary is, will he see that giving more and taking less is BETTER for our M? he's had things his way so long.

maybe that's part of what you're feeling, too?

M:63
H:53
S:41, SS:28, SS:25, SD:23
M:15
T:16

Bomb:12/17/11, "I think we should go our separate ways."
H moves to his mother's house, 4/1/12
12/21/12: H moves back home, piecing