Am I kidding myself.

[Hopefull2]

I am really trying to DB and do what I can to allow her to work on herself, which she is in many ways. She had sent me a letter a while back how she is trying to not be such a negative person, which she can be at times. She wants to be friends, and I want to rebuild the friendship as well but what does that mean? I am very much holding back and allowing her the space she needs. I do not want to come across as "pursuing", but I do want to show her I still care (which is hard when I am trying to regain my sanity and detach??). I see my boundaries/ground rules as follows;

1) try not to be the one to initiate conversations, either by email, text or phone calls. Let her initiate then be very positive (PMA & Act As If), but real. Do not peruse or act desperate, work on GAL outside of her.

2) continue to find acts of service that I can do for her to show her I still care. She has been very accepting and appreciative when i have done these type things for her.

3) remind myself to be patient and know this is a marathon not a sprint and nothing will happen as quickly as I would like....

4) ???

Thanks all you long timers that are still here offering your advice. I continue to read many others threads and am encouraged and challenged by the advice you give.