Thanks snodderly...I appreciate your 2 cents whenever you want to toss them over!
Ok, well it's good to know that during the good times when he appears to be the old "husband and father", that he was having moments of clarity. It seems like he was having clarity for quite sometime. But I now realize what I did to make the cat turn feral, I had expectations of him and let him know that, and all those expectations were for him to be honest with me.
I guess another things that taxes my sanity is that the spew and gaslighting that comes in between his moments of clarity are just unbelievable. The venom and insanity! Yet he's got everyone thinking he's such a wonderful father, uncle, cousin, person in general. But when no one's looking...lets curse the ex wife and flip out on her and let her know it's all her fault you flipped out in the first place!
I think that's what's had me so hooked for a while is because he WILL act like all of those things, and act as if that truly is who he is. Then some how some way something rubs him the wrong way (this isnt even me) and the anger vengfullness just comes out of no where! I guess this where I still feel crazy and feel like I can't even have a normal arguement with him...which of course I can't..he's in crisis.
Any threads or links on why they spew that anyone can recommend? I think I need a little refresher course.
