Do financial surprises always make you livid? If so, what can you do to 180 your reaction? Would it have helped if you told W you needed some time to process this and you'll call her back in 90 minutes? Then you can run outside and scream if you need to.

It's not reasonable to say "don't get angry" -- you will. The goal is not to act or communicate in the moment when you find yourself there. If you saw a videotape of yourself acting from a place of anger you wouldn't like it.

What can you do to train yourself to slow down before you react?

Accuray

Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced
M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11
Start Reconcile: 8/15/11
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced)
In a New Relationship: 3/2015