Kimmerz, Check with the local churchs, school and libraries. Surely there is someone in your immediate area that can put you in touch with a person or group of people that help each other out. Maybe you can start a group! I like that idea!
Yes, it's taxing your emotions because you never know when he's going to fly in and want to help out, but it's when he has moments of clarity that he flies in. Most of the time they are self-absorbed and that's why the aloofness/distance. They become so wrapped up within themselves that the outside world doesn't exist. Unfortunately, spouses of mlcers have a tough job and that's living your lives as single parents because the mlcer can't help themselves, much less help their family.
I think your mlc is glad to turn the reins over to you and that's why he becomes aloof when you have said you've taken care of things. That's just my two cents.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
