Im aware Im the primary parent here and this is my responsibility. I guess what bothers me so much is that XH seems to want to jump in and jump out of parenting. I have a hard time dealing with that because it taxes my emotions.
When D9 had her hip problem he jumped in with both feet and was completely involved. In my eyes he appeared that he was actually extending himself towards me and the girls to be of any help that he could for them, and even towards me some.
Though that was nice, I decided to keep walking forward as the primary parent and take care of everything as if the girls had absolutely no other parent, but did inform him of things that were coming up with them.
When I had to say " thanks but no thanks, I've taken care of that" on a few occasions, he completely backed off, and became aloof. Why did he do that? Does he feel inferior to me taking responsibility and seeing to their needs? Is he relieved he doesn't need to do anything?
I guess Im extra irritated lately because being the primary parent is wearing me down a bit lately too. It's not an easy job having to do all the hard stuff alone with the girls. We have so much going on here... "puberty" has exploded all over the place with my girls. There's alot of emotions, insecurities, curiosities, questions, and well...they're young women now! And that is WONDERFUL.... Im proud to be their mom and priveledged to be their teacher and role model into woman hood. I guess at the same time it brings on concerns and worries of my own that I just wish I had a partner to talk to about that's all.
Of course the first place Im going to think of out of habit and loyalty is their father, because thats the way it should be. Yet so disappointed that father just jumps in and out per his whim.
I need to look into some resources and see if there's support for single women taking on this whole role of being super parent. There really isn't much in this area. I've heard of networks in bigger cities where groups help other moms out, with babysitting, house work, errands, etc just to help mom's get a break.
Hells bells....maybe I should just start my own group!
